Two habits in close bonds: fear of losing the person, and discomfort with needing them. A higher percent means more insecurity across those habits.
About this test
Attachment theory starts with Bowlby and Ainsworth and was carried into adult romance by Hazan and Shaver. Brennan, Clark, and Shaver's Experiences in Close Relationships questionnaire organized adult attachment into two dimensions rather than four boxes: anxiety (hyperactivating the bond, watching for rejection) and avoidance (deactivating it, preferring not to depend). Bartholomew's four categories are mixtures of those two. These items are original. The headline percent averages insecurity. The cluster line shows anxiety and avoidance apart, which is the more useful reading.
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What this test asks
I worry that the person I love will decide to leave.
I want frequent reassurance that I still matter to them.
When they go quiet, my first theory is that I did something wrong.
I can go a while without contact and still feel the bond is intact.
A conflict makes me fear the relationship is already ending.
I prefer not to depend on a partner, even a trustworthy one.
When someone wants more closeness than I had planned, I pull back.
I am comfortable telling a close person what I actually feel.
I downplay my needs so I will not be too much for anyone.
I trust that a close person can handle my real feelings.
Needing someone feels like a risk I would rather design my way out of.
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