A check on answering an inner attack in the tone you would use with a friend who is learning.
About this test
Global self-esteem is a slippery target. Kristin Neff's self-compassion research and classic cognitive work on worth as a record of evidence, rather than a mood, are the neighbors. These items score whether you widened the record, answered yourself with less global contempt, or let 'enough for today' be a real stop. The percent is practice. It is not a measure of your worth.
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What this test asks
The attack says, "You always embarrass yourself." The friend test asks:
Your reply to the friend would include the mistake and the next step. Why keep both?
You want a sentence you can remember in the moment. What shape works?
The attack usually arrives after you send work. What is a cue plan?
Shame says "I am bad." Specific feedback says "the second paragraph is unclear." What is the difference you want to keep?
You used a warm tone and skipped a needed apology. What did the voice miss?
After a stumble, your body is braced. What physical kindness fits this lesson?
You think, "Other adults do not miss steps like this." What is the more accurate company?
You told a story badly at dinner and keep replaying it. A kinder reply includes:
Writing the kinder line down helps because:
The old harsh voice has been around for years. A fair attitude toward it is:
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