How love tends to show up for you: spark, play, friendship, lists, obsession, or devotion. The headline percent is the passionate and self-giving end.
About this test
John Lee described six love styles, later measured by Hendrick and Hendrick's Love Attitudes Scale: eros (chemistry), ludus (play), storge (friendship growing into love), pragma (practical match), mania (absorbing, anxious love), and agape (devoted care). Attachment research (Hazan and Shaver; Brennan's Experiences in Close Relationships) asks a different question — anxiety and avoidance — and has its own test on this site. These items are original. The headline percent uses eros, mania, and agape. Ludus, storge, and pragma are reported beside it so a practical or playful style is visible rather than scored as 'not romantic.'
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What this test asks
I would not call it love unless there is a real spark — a pull toward that particular person.
I fall by feeling drawn in, not by checking a list of sensible traits.
Flirtation and lightness can be the whole pleasure. Love does not have to become exclusive to count.
I like to keep an exit unembarrassing, in case a romance stops being fun.
The loves that last, for me, grow out of friendship rather than out of a blaze.
I trust a romance more after we have been ordinary together — errands, quiet, unimpressed company.
I think about whether a person fits my life — timing, values, plans — before I let myself fall.
When I love, it can take over my attention. A silence from them ruins the afternoon.
I reread their last message for proof of where I stand.
I can put their good ahead of my own preference and not experience it as a loss of self.
Devotion matters more to me than being entertained. I want to be someone they can count on.
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